One of the nice things about attending convention and weekends is talking with all the other tall ladies about what it's like to date as a taller female.
Boy, do our stories ensue.
There is nothing like sitting with a glass of wine, at afterhours and joking with the ladies about dating. I have heard so many things, like wow, how's the weather... some comments that will remain... unmentioned because they are so rude.. but hearing that I am intimidating is probably one of the most frequent comments. I find that interesting, particularly because I haven't opened my mouth to speak yet! Wait until they find out how smart I am. Wink wink.
But I digress. I think everyone has their challenges in life dating, but being tall adds a whole other level of interesting.
The big take away for me, especially as I've grow as a person, not growing up tall, was that I need to embrace who I am, fully and completely. That isn't easy to do when you have something that makes you noticeably different.
Then there's the clothes and shoes. I'm a bit of a girlie girl. I love wearing pretty dresses and lip gloss and heels... I think it's the opposite of my hiking attire that I love to wear as well. Anyway! Finding clothes and shoes that fit properly is always a bit of a challenge. In recent years I've moved more to leggins and tall socks. Stretchy clothes are great, and if the leggings are too short, I just pull up the socks. Then I'll wear a longer tunic or even a dress to get the funky look I like.
Also, dresses are great too. It's easier than pants I find, because you don't run into the 'pants too short' issue with jeans etc. Plus, wearing a dress makes me feel great and look good on a date!
But high heels. This is a tough one. I always joke that at 5'11", I'm one of the shorter ladies. Most of the ladies in the club are well into the 6 foot range, and the guys are 6'6" and higher. With the club I get to break out all my sparkly heels... not so much in my regular life, where all my friends seem to be 5'2"!
Me in particular, I'm happy to date someone that is taller or shorter than me. My experience dating has been that guys like to date someone that is shorter than them... most guys anyway. So that can make it tough sometimes. But fun!
I think one of the reasons I ran in the pageant this past year was so I could get better at being me, embracing the tall, 'intimidating', and big personality that I run with in my life. I am a singer who lives her life 'out there' after all :)
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Do you know a tall teen? Of course you do, most everyone does..... If you know a tall teenager looking to attend college or university, please send them to:
To find out more about our scholarship program. The TCI foundation is run by the lovely Carolyn Goldstein from Texas. I'm a Canadian who has had the good fortune to visit Texas. I love that state. But I digress, Carolyn as the Chairman of the Foundation, works with the national and regional tall clubs to generate funds for the foundation.
If you attend a Tall.org event, there are silent auctions, live auctions and other opportunities for people to donate items for auction. The we all bid or just donate in order to generate funds for the Foundation.
You'll notice on the TCI foundation page that there are certain requirements in order to apply for a scholarship. Yes, I was once a teenager and no, it's probably not alot of fun to go through the process, but it's great experience for when you grow up and there is a possibility to get some college money at the end!
I've been fortunate enough to grade? rate? some of the applications. Surprisingly, I LOVE looking at all the applications. Sometimes it's really tough to choose. I think the applications that stick out most to me are the ones where the teen's personality really shines through. What makes you different... and interesting? that's the thing we're all trying to discover about ourselves right?
Please take a moment to share this post with any tall teen's you know.. :)
If I had to nutshell the annual Chicago weekend it would be: fun, travel and networking.
It was so lovely to catch up with the new friends I had made at convention last July. Just about everyone I have met in the tall club is a stellar human being. I really feel like I have friends scattered all over the place now. I could go to Cincinnati, Austin, Sacramento or DC and have a friend there. It's quite amazing really.
Plus the weekends are a great opportunity to be a tourist in Chicago. The weekend planning committee went out of their way to find a great hotel, close to the airport with a shuttle. The hotel included breakfast every morning in the lobby, a great breakfast buffet in fact, which was a great place to catch up with everyone to see what they had planned for the day. Not to mention show off to candid photos of whatever activities had taken place the night before.
The local Chicago members used their own vehicles or transit to drive us around. People really went out of their way for out of town guests. I personally visited three museums, saw the amazing Chicago architecture, visited the Art Institute, rode the L (short for loop) train and stopped to see the great art including the Cloud Atlas monument.
Then every evening, we had a group dinner and activities after. Thursday night we went on a pub crawl and managed to recruit a few new members, Friday it was a costume party and Saturday was the evening to wear a gown and get awards. Then there is the after hours parties where Dai and I (he was visiting from Wales)By Sunday morning I was tired, a little bit hungover and extremely happy. Sometimes we forget what it's like to have FUN.
I can't say enough about what a cool feeling it is to be able to wear a nice dress with lovely heels, and to walk around in a 'pack' with other tall people. We get stares and lots of questions. It's so nice to feel like you're part of something.
I decided to stay an extra few days and took myself and a tall friend to Second City.. the legendary Chicago improv comedy club where the Blues Brothers got their start. I also went the Planetarium downtown and watched it snow sideways in the Chicago wind. Lastly, I went to Buddy Guy's blues club and even got up to jam with Buddy Guy sitting at the bar.
Chicago was a fun tall adventure and the crew from Chicago are fantastic people too.
TCI has been running pageants for YEARS. In years past there has been up to 20 different ladies competing for the crown. In recent years, there have been fewer women, but it still makes the competition no less stiff. I had to compete first for the Vancouver BC, Sea to Sky Peaks crown, then continue on to Miss TI. So I guess technically I won two pageants!
If I would have told my 17 year old self that I would be running in a beauty pageant...well... let's just say I surprised myself. In high school, I was the wanna be rock star who ran around in a biker jacket, band t-shirts, tight jeans and army boots. I abhorred anything I didn't deem as 'cool' and had a permanently reserved seat on the back of the school bus.
Needless to say, I remember the local girls running for pageants and I thought it was ridiculous. Boy, was I superficially judgemental and wrong! While I am certainly not the princess type, I seriously underestimated what a wonderful growth opportunity participating in a pageant would be.
I realized in the past few years that pageants, while historically focused on looks to some extent, are actually so much more. It's toastmasters public speaking, a talent portion and the ability to think on your feet while being questioned, all rolled up into one. While I am fortunate that I have been a performing musician for 25 years and have worked hard to develop that as a career, there are still no guarantees that translates into a win. Putting myself out there several times month to play in front of people is different than speaking and being influential, though undoubtedly that fear of getting up in front of people is lessened.
It also gave me an opportunity to think through all my points of view. I had to ask myself how I can be bigger and better than I have been in the past, a real leader. I actually spent some time video taping myself.. wow, what a learning that was, I am a fast talker and I needed to slow myself down.
Thank goodness I did because all that time and work paid off and I won!
Up until the announcement I really had no idea that I was going to win. The competition was excellent and I was so thankful for that. This was a real growth opportunity for me and a chance to expand my comfort zone while representing my local Vancouver BC Canada, Sea to Sky Peaks Club and eventually North America as Miss TI.
The announcement itself was exciting. It is such a funny thing to hear your name being called. It's like time stops for a second and you look around to see what's happening. Then you survey the room and almost automatically begin to say thank you.. to my competition, the judges and the wonderful group of people who had chosen me... Then there is the flash bulbs and smiling until you think your face has frozen into position :)
Then there is the crown, which is surprisingly heavy and needs to be attached pretty creatively using bobby pins and clips. I can say it's something I can get on and off quite easily now. Getting through door jams without getting it bumped off my head is another thing entirely.
Overall, it has been a really fun life experience so far. Little girls love to come up and ask me questions, in fact it's quite something to go out with it on. I've had to get over a bit of the 'why is everyone staring at me'.. feeling. I would encourage anyone (single and a tall club member) who is even thinking about running to sign up. It's a wonderful life experience to even run!
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Miss TI 2017 Lindsay May
Tall Clubs International™ (TCI) is a social organization for tall adults! Our stated purpose is “to promote tall awareness among tall men and women, and in the community." With dozens of member clubs and over 1,000 members across the U.S. and Canada, we are truly an international not-for-profit organization.
Every year Tall Clubs International™ engages in social activities of mutual interest, travel for gatherings of members from several TCI clubs, a convention to conduct the business of the Corporation (with representatives of all clubs) and the selection a new Miss Tall International®, the official public representative and goodwill ambassador for TCI.